James Preece http://www.jamespreece.com Dating Coach and Dating Expert Wed, 21 Jun 2017 11:04:04 +0000 en-GB hourly 1 http://www.jamespreece.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/best-dating-guru-32x32.jpg James Preece http://www.jamespreece.com 32 32 Christian Grey Character Traits ( 50 Shades of Grey) http://www.jamespreece.com/christian-grey-character-50-shades-of-grey/ http://www.jamespreece.com/christian-grey-character-50-shades-of-grey/#respond Wed, 21 Jun 2017 11:04:04 +0000 http://www.jamespreece.com/?p=27642 Christian Grey Character Traits The name has been hard to avoid, since the character Christian Grey seems to be on every woman’s mind. But why? What makes this character so irresistible to women? Do other men even stand a chance anymore? Well, you do with a few tweaks to your approach. We’re talking about adapting […]

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Christian Grey Character Traits

The name has been hard to avoid, since the character Christian Grey seems to be on every woman’s mind. But why? What makes this character so irresistible to women? Do other men even stand a chance anymore? Well, you do with a few tweaks to your approach. We’re talking about adapting traits from the character Christian Grey to make any woman attracted to you.

First, let’s answer that first question. What exactly is appealing about this character?

Women often contact me with advice about choosing a dating agency as they want to meet strong men like Christian Grey that they don’t see in real life. One of the main draws about Christian Grey is his position of power. Not to be confused with his obvious fortune. Money may make the corporate world go around, but it does nothing to make beautiful women swarm. Power, on the other hand, does. A person in a position of power, with dominance over others, is more attractive. Simply because it shows you are commanding and assertive. You’re strong minded. I mean, you have to be to have that kind of power in the first place. If you’re not in a position of power, don’t worry! You can simply be in control of yourself, demonstrating power over your own urges. It’s enough to turn their heads too!

Of course, the power is high on the list, but not the only thing women seem to love. They love that he is unattainable, so there’s a challenge to get inside the fortress that is his mind. As much as women want you to be open, a little bit of secrecy and mystery will drive them wild. Nothing big, but, just show that you’re not giving everything away. That there are parts of you that you’re keeping locked up. If you don’t believe it works, try it out for yourself the next time you’re out. Be charming, but a little stoic. Reserved, while demonstrating enough interest. You’ll see the results.

There’s also a draw to someone who is dominating, like the Christian Grey character. He takes control. He’s possessive of his woman. He does what he wants and he doesn’t apologize. Mind you, these are the traits you’re going to save for after you’ve gotten to know someone! You start being possessive on a first date and you’re never going to get a call back!

Now, what can you take from the Christian Grey character?

– Be powerful
– Be assertive
– Be mysterious
– Be seductive
– Be irresistible

It’s not hard to tweak your approach to be more like this Christian Grey character. Even if you’re not exactly the most dominate person in the world, you can have an approach that makes it seem like you are. Or, you can learn to be more. After all, you want to be satisfying and irresistible. That means no putting on a show. If you want the approach to really work, you’ve got to make it a part of yourself.

There may only be one Christian Grey character, but the options are endless to transform into someone even more irresistible. I mean, you’re real. You’re flesh. Attainable. Christian Grey is just a character. Already, you’re better than him!

If you’d like to learn more about how to attract women, book a dating coaching for men session with me today

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How to Make New Friends As an Adult http://www.jamespreece.com/how-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/ http://www.jamespreece.com/how-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comments Thu, 15 Jun 2017 11:09:40 +0000 http://www.jamespreece.com/?p=27584 How to Make New Friends As An Adult Learning to make new friends as an adult is so hard. As little kids, making friends was super-easy. We could walk up to someone in the playground and sit down beside them. We could push a stranger on a swing set and walk away with a new […]

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How to Make New Friends As An Adult

Learning to make new friends as an adult is so hard. As little kids, making friends was super-easy. We could walk up to someone in the playground and sit down beside them. We could push a stranger on a swing set and walk away with a new best friend. Sharing juice boxes or switching lunches at school was a great way to build a lasting friendship. Unfortunately, doing the same as an adult will make you seem a little strange. As a relationship expert I know this results in many people being lonely. So, how exactly do adults make friends?

In this age of technology, it should’t shock you that there are apps. Similar to Tinder, there is a swiping feature, profiles, often integrated with social media. These apps, unlike Tinder, are designed for those of us who are only looking for friends. In fact, Tinder has a separate app for just friends. Did you know that? It’s called Tinder Social. It functions a lot like Tinder, but the intention is only to make friends with other users. It’s a little less personal than one on one, because it uses a social group feature. The idea is to create a group (2+ people), then connect with other groups. Obviously, that’s not going to work for everyone.

There are other apps to consider if you want to make new friends as an adult. To list a few:

– Bumble BFF (Leading developers with dating app Bumble, they have now branched into a friendship based application for those who just want to be a little more social. With the same features as Bumble, only a whole new goal!)
– Skout (Not focused on local connections, instead pairing you with people all over the world.)
– Tinder Social (Of course!)

Of course, apps aren’t the only way to make friends. We don’t live in a technology-exclusive world quite yet. You can still meet people the old fashioned way, depending on what your interests might be.

Clubs and sporting events are a great way to get social. But, don’t pick something based on it’s popularity! The most important thing when it comes to branching out is doing so genuinely. Pick a sport or event you’re interested in and get a move on! Yes, it can be a little intimidating going out alone. Many people have anxiety about not knowing anyone in a big gathering. Sometimes, you’ve got to push yourself out of your comfort zone and do something a little different. After all, your patterns have to change if you’re not happy with the way they are.

You can always sign up for classes as well. This can be a great way to make new friends as an adult. This automatically tells you that the other people in the class share a common interest with you. You’d be surprised how many people are going to be there, nervous and alone. You can bond over that. The next thing you know, you may have a new best friend.

Alright, it’s also intimidating to walk up to a complete stranger and say hello. I’m guilty of that one myself. But, once you do it, the conversation comes naturally. It’s only the first move that riddled with nerves. After that, you’ll be able to converse like you’ve known this stranger your whole life. If the conversation goes really well, it will naturally come to the point of exchanging information.

More often than not, you’ve just got to rely on your gut instinct. Don’t confuse that with your nerves though. Your nerves may tell you it’s weird to talk to someone you don’t know. “They may think you’re a freak”, your nerves will say. Your instinct will guide you to the people who are just as nervous as you. It all starts with a simple “hello”.

Or, you can always consider signing up with a dating agency.  Many run events that focus on making new friends as adults rather than just dating.

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No Matches On Tinder? Here’s Why!

No matches on Tinder is sadly so very very common. You made the decision to join Tinder under the impression you’d get dates. So many dates you wouldn’t know where to start. A week later, you’ve got no matches. Another week passes, the same story. So, what are you doing wrong? Rather, what can you do to fix these mistakes?

There are a handful of reasons your Tinder profile might be falling short of connections. Let’s take a quick look at some of them:

– You have too much information on your profile
– You don’t have enough information on your profile
– Your profile information isn’t highlighting the right details
– You’re not giving other people a reason to match you

As you can see, most of the success on Tinder largely relies on how you’re presenting yourself. As a Dating Coach I’ve helped many singles craft the perfect tinder bio .

In this generation, short and sweet is the best way to get information to a potential match. This means, you don’t ramble for three paragraphs about how awesome you are. That’s the quickest way to getting no matches on Tinder. You don’t go into long details about all your favourite hobbies. Many people read that and think they can get away with not having any information in their profiles. If you’re linked to Instagram, you might believe your feed says enough about you as a person. You’ve got pictures of yourself doing some of your hobbies, pictures of the areas you live in and visit regularly. Maybe, you’ve even got pictures of yourself at work or with your friends. You think, all your information is right there in the images.

Wrong.

No one is going to click through your images to see your personality unless you hook them in with your profile. That’s just a fact. Now, creating the perfect Tinder bio is simple: You summarise your personality into one sentence and include your three favourite hobbies. That sounds a lot harder than it actually is. You might consider asking a friend or two what is your best selling point. Dating is like being a salesperson of yourself. You have to let your potential matches know why you are a good selection. You have to tell them what you offer that other people don’t. Essentially, why they should choose you. At the same time, sounding too much like a sales pitch is a definite turn off to most people, who might think you’re not being genuine.

Here’s a perfect Tinder bio:

I love snowboarding because it keeps me on my toes. I’m a quick thinker and love a good challenge. I enjoy mixing things up, so the same routine is a drag to me. I’m good company and you can always expect an interesting time. By the way, I’m James and it’s nice to meet you.

This bio includes basic information: A name, a hobby and a reason why you should consider swiping right. It also includes a pet peeve, which shows that you’re giving more of yourself than a basic run down. You’re including the negative side. By saying “an interesting time”, instead of a “good time”, you’re also not making any promises for satisfaction. You’re simply saying you keep things interesting.

With the short attention spans of a swiping generation, you have to be quick. You also have to stand out against the competition. The secret to success with Tinder lies in being quick, but also being genuine. Always be yourself when you’re creating any bio. Just be the best version of yourself!

If you’ve been getting no interest or no matches on Tinder then you should buy my “I Will Make You Click” dating book from Amazon HERE

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Clever Usernames for Dating Sites http://www.jamespreece.com/clever-usernames-for-dating-sites/ http://www.jamespreece.com/clever-usernames-for-dating-sites/#respond Thu, 01 Jun 2017 10:38:00 +0000 http://www.jamespreece.com/?p=27588 Clever Usernames For Dating Sites As the UK’s number one Dating Coach, I know that choosing clever names for dating sites can be a big stumbling block.  You’ll spend ages trying to think of something original and then give up! You’ve likely seen a few of these “clever” names already. They are puns, where the […]

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Clever Usernames For Dating Sites

As the UK’s number one Dating Coach, I know that choosing clever names for dating sites can be a big stumbling block.  You’ll spend ages trying to think of something original and then give up!

You’ve likely seen a few of these “clever” names already. They are puns, where the user plays with a word to make it sound like something else. Often, this is done with a name. My dating coaching Albert uses the name “AlbyWaiting”. Like, I’ll be waiting… Catchy, right? It’s certainly clever as the username for a dating application. It draws other people into your profile, interested in knowing more.

Not everyone has a name that can fit into a pun like that. In fact, many of us don’t. So, we have to get a little more creative with our usernames. Ideally, looking to get the same result. You can use other details about yourself: like your hobbies, your hometown or even your last name. The point is largely to showcase your creativity and how unique you really are. AlbyWaiting isn’t exactly the most creative thing ever written. It does capture attention, though. 50 points for him. To get that 100 points, a perfect rating, you’ll need to add that creativity.

Three things to keep in mind when creating clever usernames for dating sites : 

1. Be Creative
2. Be Original
3. Be Appealing

Along with your new creativity and original thinking, you’ve got to be appealing. A username like HunkyMan2567 or SexyBabe2456 isn’t going to do that. There’s nothing appealing about a username that is so plain and boring. Now, you might think “well, I’m advertising my looks and that’s all people care about anyway”. True, looks do play a big part in dating. Let’s be realistic here. However, creativity is more impressive than good looks. This is coming from a dating expert. Anyone can be good looking. It takes a lot to be creative.

Creativity is appealing. A username like “FunInTheSonny” is bound to catch a lot more attention. It’s cute, it’s clever. More importantly, it’s showcasing that you put time and energy into your username.

You can never underestimate putting the right amount of thought into something. So many people will see a username and say: “That’s clever, but unoriginal.” You’re at the 50. But, you don’t want the 50. You want the 100. You want a reaction of “I need to check this profile out”.

When you’re planning a username, think about what reaction you would have. Would you see that username and think “I want to know more”? Or would you scroll past it like it was just another default? Considering your own reaction will help you to know how relatable your username might be.

That’s another trick: relatability. Now, you don’t need others users to relate to you using nothing but a username. But, there should be some relation between your name and something else, right? If you’re using a pun of a movie character, other users would say “I love that movie”. Automatically, you are going to stand out in their mind. Choosing something that is popular (like: The Matrix, or Fight Club) isn’t going to leave an impression. It’s overdone. No, really. Think outside of the box here.

If you’re not a creative person, here’s a simple trick when you are thinking up clever usernames for dating sites: Pick three words that you feel define you as a person. Now, put them together. How does it sound as a username? Is it catchy? No? Then try three different words. Add in one of your hobbies and cycle around until you find something you like. QuirkySnowboaderFromUtah doesn’t seem like a catchy username, but it’s better than George4390854.

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How to write a good profile on a dating site http://www.jamespreece.com/how-to-write-a-good-profile-on-a-dating-site/ http://www.jamespreece.com/how-to-write-a-good-profile-on-a-dating-site/#respond Fri, 26 May 2017 09:31:02 +0000 http://www.jamespreece.com/?p=27590 Dating Expert Guide to learning how to write a good profile on a dating site Learning how to write a good profile on a dating site is much harder than people expect. You probably know that online dating has made it easier than ever to make connections. The ability to be on-the-go while chatting someone […]

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Dating Expert Guide to learning how to write a good profile on a dating site

Learning how to write a good profile on a dating site is much harder than people expect. You probably know that online dating has made it easier than ever to make connections. The ability to be on-the-go while chatting someone up helps to keep an open line of communication. This allows people to get to know each other, without having to worry about opposing schedules. This means when two people finally connect face-to-face, they already have a good idea of what the other person is like.

It all starts with your dating profile on the best dating site.

Your dating profile, whether you’re using a website or an app, is the first thing someone will see. Consider it a first impression. The information you share on your profile is the first thing someone is going to know about you. It’s tempting to list your best qualities and your favorite things to do in your spare time. But, everyone’s doing that. It’s not original, so it’s not likely to catch any attention. The key to capturing the attention of someone lies in creativity. Your profile should be different and help you to stand out. You should offer information about yourself that other people don’t.

It’s more than that, though. You have to know the kind of information to offer. Every profile lists hobbies, likes and dislikes, and typical “what I do” information. That’s basic. That’s boring. In order to be creative with your content, you’ll have to dig a little deeper than the surface information. One of the ways you can do this is by sharing the same information, with a twist. Instead of saying “I love snowboarding”, give a little more information about why you love snowboarding. If you love cooking, mention what got you into the culinary arts. Share personal pieces of yourself, because no one else is doing that.

The most common reason for missed connection is almost always the profile information. Too many people over-share, while the same amount under share. Your profile has to have a nice balance of personal information and typical details. It has to be a glimpse into your personality, without giving too much away. No one wants to read paragraphs, either. So when you’re sharing that information, use spacing! Point form is the easiest thing to read:

– Share enough of your personality that someone will want to know more
– Share enough of your typical information that someone will know if you’re compatible
– Add a hook to draw users in, a call to action (like: “Let’s get coffee” or “Now tell me something about you”)

See? You followed that a little better, right? Do the same with your profile. Write a nice introduction sentence that hooks other users in. This sentence should be a great summary of your personality. Think of the old school prompt: “Summarize yourself in one sentence”. Do that on your dating profile. Use spacing and a second paragraph to dive more into why someone would want to get to know you. Then, use point form sentences to detail what you have to offer someone.

Your closing sentence/paragraph should be the call to action, enticing other users to get in contact.

The only real trick to creating a great dating profile is that you let your personality shine through. No one wants to meet a standard bio copied and pasted into your profile. They want to meet the interesting individual behind the catchy introduction. Think of it that way: Your bio is an introduction. What would you tell someone when you first met them?

I also offer personal dating coaching session teaching singles how to write a good profile on a dating site.  Please get in touch if you’d like my dating expert opinion!

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I Would Never Date Someone Who Does That! – Think Twice Before You Judge an Underrated Career http://www.jamespreece.com/never-date-someone-before-you-judge-an-underrated-career/ http://www.jamespreece.com/never-date-someone-before-you-judge-an-underrated-career/#respond Tue, 25 Apr 2017 10:56:50 +0000 http://www.jamespreece.com/?p=27564 Admit it, who hasn’t been sitting around the pub with friends having this conversation? As human beings we are all prone to those snap judgements on first impressions, especially regarding career choice. But does that uniform or pocket protector tell us all we need to know about someone? Hopefully not.  The era of “Geek Chic” […]

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Admit it, who hasn’t been sitting around the pub with friends having this conversation? As human beings we are all prone to those snap judgements on first impressions, especially regarding career choice. But does that uniform or pocket protector tell us all we need to know about someone? Hopefully not. 

The era of “Geek Chic” has brought the lives of the world’s most successful Entrepreneurs into full view, and lo and behold, they are all dropouts of various educational institutions, some the best in the world. Dressed in tee shirt, trainers, and jeans most days, glassy eyed from hours and hours in front of a computer monitor, just how many people are kicking themselves because they jumped to the conclusion that they had nothing to offer. 

Throughout, history we have identified class, gender, and education by style or dress, but things are changing fast. Cowboy hats, grills, tank tops, and trainers with tuxedos are now not only acceptable, but considered ultra-trendy and stylish. Urban areas have usually set the tone, but rural areas aren’t far behind and it’s not long until we see the trends pushing the proverbial envelope at work. Although if you can’t walk or sit down in it, most likely it’s a terrible choice for both dating and the office. 

Team PokerStars Pro Lex Veldhuis explains the evolution of fashion in his own career “I noticed when I just started [playing live] people would mostly go for jeans with shirts and it was all pretty standard early 90s clothing”, “Then the internet wave came and people pretty much wanted to sit at the table as they did at home. Even though this might not be very appealing to the eye, I do understand people want to be as comfortable as they can be.” 

According to relationship expert, Eric Hegmann, “The latest studies of online dating show more and more that men are refusing to subscribe to the old cliché of looking for a woman who has a less demanding career than they do.” With more casual dress codes now a perk in offices all over the world, a more relaxed attitude has blurred lines between coworkers. It has become more difficult to tell the intern from the manager.  

The meteoric rise of self-made success by non-traditional methods has altered the job market in tremendous ways. These days that mechanic who changed your oil at the gas station could very well be Robbie Savage. Lex’s teammate, Gold Medal Hockey Player and Model Fatima Moreira de Melo weighs in stating, “I used to be a fashion designer but then I always wanted to be a lot of different things. I just have different interests and in society it’s normal that you just become one thing but that’s not me.” “I think our generation is more and more into doing different things in life and enjoying it.” 

So, take a chance and say yes next time you get an invitation to go out with someone outside the norms of your standard dates. Take a cooking or language class to meet new people, and if they happen to have an unconventional career, keep an open mind.  Change can be scary, but it can also be a chance to learn something new about yourself and what you are seeking in a committed relationship. 

 

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Dating Coach London : How to Date a Younger Man http://www.jamespreece.com/dating-coach-london-how-to-date-younger-man/ http://www.jamespreece.com/dating-coach-london-how-to-date-younger-man/#respond Mon, 24 Apr 2017 10:14:58 +0000 http://www.jamespreece.com/?p=27547 Dating Coach London Advice Dating Coach London Expert James Preece brings you his latest dating advice. As an older woman, the dating pool can be even more challenging. You may have a variety of options but they won’t all seem appealing. Most women reach certain peaks as they hit their 40’s which men reach them […]

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Dating Coach London Advice

Dating Coach London Expert James Preece brings you his latest dating advice.

As an older woman, the dating pool can be even more challenging. You may have a variety of options but they won’t all seem appealing. Most women reach certain peaks as they hit their 40’s which men reach them much earlier. This has led to older women dating younger men. It seems to make sense genetically but in reality it doesn’t quite work.

You might be wondering where you may meet a younger man who is interested in dating someone older. It would be great to think social clubs or singles events are the best way to meet new prospects. In most cases, they would be. But how do you approach a younger man you’re interested in? It can be nerve wracking or even embarrassing. You don’t want to go through that kind of rejection just because you want to meet a partner. You need to find younger men who as open minded as you.

Look at the Options

You may consider trying a dating agency and there are some that specialise in helping younger men meet mature partners. Not surprisingly, they are few and far between though. As a result, they aren’t a great choice for women seeking this type of relationship.

Some people like to try niche dating websites that pair young men to older woman. Here, you won’t have to worry about being judged for wanting the same thing. However, expect to have many young men trying to talk to you as soon as you’re joined! It’s very common to be overwhelmed. Unfortunately, this pairing is a double standard to a degree. Young men are encouraged by friends and peers to try dating an older woman. It’s considered a score and they are rewarded with praise. They also get to experience a more mature relationship than they are used to with women their own age. It’s a complete win for them. For you, an older woman on a site like this, your peers may cast judgement. They may think there is something wrong with you for wanting a younger man.  Please remember that’s there issue and not yours!

Don’t be Concerned

There is a stigma around this type of pairing. Some people think it’s wrong for someone to date below their own age bracket. As an older woman, you might hear that you’re corrupting the younger mind of the gentleman you are dating.  Unfortunately, there is no way to change other peoples’ opinions. They are only going to believe what they have been taught to believe. The only opinions that matter are those in the relationship. If either of you are questioning the pairing, it’s best to split. Don’t let that separation be because of insecurities! Remember that no one else understands the bond you share with someone else – regardless of the age. Only you do. If you do so don’t let other people spoil it for you.

Embrace the Experience

This can be a great thing for you both. You can take the opportunity to explore different sides of the dating world, combining age and experience, with youth and energy.

Now, some may ask me as a Dating Coach London Expert and Dating Mentor how to act in a relationship such as this Do you hold hands in public, or fear the reaction of other people? Is it best to keep it quiet, or do you tell the world? There is no right or wrong answer about how to act. It’s all about what you’re the most comfortable with. If you’re both happy to have found each other, feel free to shout it from the rooftops. Never let someone else silence you about your joys in life. It’s important that you’re on the same page about telling everyone though. Most of all, establish your boundaries and discuss what you’re comfortable with.

Communication is the key to every relationship, after all. Age doesn’t change that.

Dating Coach London James Preece is available for dating coaching, either by Skype or Face to Face.

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Dating Mentor Advice to Mentally Prepare for a First Date http://www.jamespreece.com/dating-mentor-mentally-prepare-date/ http://www.jamespreece.com/dating-mentor-mentally-prepare-date/#comments Thu, 13 Apr 2017 13:17:53 +0000 http://www.jamespreece.com/?p=27528 Dating Mentor James Preece  Dating Mentor and Dating Coach James Preece knows it isn’t easy to mentally prepare yourself for a first date. They are always so nerve-wracking to most people. On the brighter side, you can take comfort in knowing your date feels the same way. They are just as nervous as you are […]

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Dating Mentor James Preece 

Dating Mentor and Dating Coach James Preece knows it isn’t easy to mentally prepare yourself for a first date. They are always so nerve-wracking to most people. On the brighter side, you can take comfort in knowing your date feels the same way. They are just as nervous as you are and equally as worried about how the date is going to go. For all the same reasons. Right there, you have something to bond over! In fact, making a light joke about the awkwardness of a first date can often ease the tension of it. Keep in mind that humour, when used properly, is a great tool.

You can immediately let some of your nerves go, knowing they are going through the same thing. Next, you have to remind yourself that this isn’t a job interview. You don’t have to ask a million questions or have the perfect answers for the ones you might be asked. You’re both trying to get the feel for each other and there are no right or wrong answers. There might be uncomfortable subjects approached, but you can always steer your date in a different direction. If necessary, you can openly express that you’re uncomfortable with the subject matter. You want to be on the same page. The date will go smooth and there WILL be a second date. Maybe even more that follow. That’s not going to happen if you’re worrying yourself too much.

Your future doesn’t lie on outcome of this date. So take it easy!

Preparing yourself starts before the date does. I tell my dating coaching clients to do a quick run through of the date in their heads before they even set off. Imagine everything going really well from start to finish. That way you have something to aim for and to make you feel positive.

But it doesn’t stop when the date starts. You can either choose to stress about everything or you can just relax and let things progress naturally. The best dates are the ones that you don’t spend too much time obsessing over. Of course, you want to have a plan in mind for your date. But, you’re not going to want to plan the entire thing out completely. It’s not supposed to be that serious but rather a fun and relaxed experience for both of you.

You want to choose locations that will encourage communication. Ultimately, that’s what you’ll have to do over the course of the date. At the same time, you don’t want to feel like you’re talking too much about yourself or asking them too many questions. Finding a balance can really help. A good way to find that balance is choosing locations that allow for conversation topics. A museum or art gallery provide you with hours of stimulating conversation. This can really take some of the pressure off. While you want to get to know them by asking questions, sometimes observing their behaviour is a better sign. Notice how they view the exhibits and what they have to say. Are they strong-willed or do they appear to be indifferent to most of what they are seeing? These are good traits to know right off the bat. 

There are many people who start to worry again as the date is nearing completion. The question of how to end the date is often lingering in the back of your mind. Do you kiss your date goodnight or do you wait for them to kiss you? The best advice for closing the date is that you let it close itself. If it feels natural to go for the kiss, go for it. If your date seems stiff, back off.

Again, your future doesn’t depend on how well this date goes. If you want it to go well, you just have to focus on enjoying yourself and your date.

If you need some help with that – please hire me as your Dating Mentor.  Or if things go perfectly please check out my best second date ideas here.

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Relationship Expert Guide to Staying Positive in Dating http://www.jamespreece.com/relationship-expert-guide-staying-positive/ http://www.jamespreece.com/relationship-expert-guide-staying-positive/#comments Tue, 04 Apr 2017 11:12:50 +0000 http://www.jamespreece.com/?p=27496 Relationship Expert Guide to Staying Positive in Dating Anyone who has been dating for a few years knows a bit about the ups and downs. Well, that’s almost everyone, isn’t it? The thing is, it can be hard to stay positive, when so many people are swiping left on our profiles. Sometimes, we start chatting […]

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Relationship Expert Guide to Staying Positive in Dating

Anyone who has been dating for a few years knows a bit about the ups and downs. Well, that’s almost everyone, isn’t it? The thing is, it can be hard to stay positive, when so many people are swiping left on our profiles. Sometimes, we start chatting with the perfect-sounding someone, only to find out they are not who we were hoping. Yes, the dating pool can leave you discouraged, and wondering what the point of it all is. Finding love may seem too difficult to keep trying to do. In fact, you may want to give up hope and get yourself a few cats instead. As the UK’s best relationship expert I bring you hope. Before retiring your love life, try to see it with a new spin!

The most important thing you have to do is remember that every encounter is an experience. There is no “win” or “lose” when it comes to dating. You can view everything as a learning curve, or a stepping stone to something better. Although that second option isn’t always the first thing that comes to mind. It’s hard to stay THAT positive. But, it’s not hard to see everything as something, even when it feels like nothing.

As human beings, we are always striving to learn and improve ourselves. Our love lives should be no different. This may involve improving your tactics or your strategy. It may involve having some dating coaching sessions to brush up on your dating skills. There’s no harm in trying to expand your knowledge of the dating pool and the fish in the sea.

The next step to staying positive is remembering there is someone out there. We’re not talking about that “perfect someone” who will suit every need you have and fit every ideal. There is no such thing as perfection. That’s relative. Everything is perfect, if that’s how you want to choose to see it. But there IS someone out there who is going through the same thing as you. Someone who is struggling to get a date, or to further a conversation with someone they are interested in. In fact, there are many many people out there in the same boat. We all like to think we have a good lead on things. Often, we have no idea what we’re doing. We trip and stumble through the situations and come out lucky or unlucky in love.

That’s the next step: Understand that there is always a chance. There is a chance things will go great on your next date, or they will go terrible. There is no way you can guarantee the outcome of anything, after all. So at some point, you have to be willing to take risks.

Risk-takers aren’t always the happiest, but they have less “what if”s under their belt. Maybe that’s the real secret right there. You don’t want to think about the chances you didn’t take. The things you didn’t do. The things you didn’t say. If you want to ask someone out, do it. Don’t be so afraid of everything falling apart that you don’t try to build something in the first place. Things fall apart sometimes. It happens and you don’t need a relationship expert to tell you that!

Finally, the best thing you can do is accept all of the above. The true guide to positivity is by acceptance. You can hold your head above the water knowing that so many others are doing the same thing. You’re not alone. Which means, you won’t always feel alone, either.

If you’d like some help with your love life then let me be your relationship coach

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Clikd Dating App Review http://www.jamespreece.com/clikd-dating-app-review/ http://www.jamespreece.com/clikd-dating-app-review/#comments Wed, 29 Mar 2017 14:43:15 +0000 http://www.jamespreece.com/?p=27479 Clikd Dating App really interested me as a leading relationship expert.  I know that dating in the modern world can be really tough.  For many people, forming genuine friendships and connections with people is increasingly hard these days.  Personal interaction seems like a dying art, and people increasingly look to their phones, tablets or pc’s […]

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Clikd Dating App really interested me as a leading relationship expert.  I know that dating in the modern world can be really tough.  For many people, forming genuine friendships and connections with people is increasingly hard these days.  Personal interaction seems like a dying art, and people increasingly look to their phones, tablets or pc’s to get their ‘social’ fix. It seems the easiest way to find a mate or a date. 

This does mean we no longer have to face the possible fear of rejection on the streets or to our faces. But have dating apps like Tinder and Bumble, or friendship apps like Facebook taken these conflict-free opportunities too far?  Do we now just base our entire future relationships on the attraction we feel from a photograph?  Or do we judge a friend on the number of ‘likes’ they give us?  What happened to finding out about someone on a more personal level?  Or forming strong bonds from shared experiences?

When it comes to dating, singles want someone with the same interests as them. Let’s suppose it’s someone who loves the gym and likes watching cat videos on the internet.  How can they find that out from just some photos? Everyone is just trying to find the ‘one’, but we’re given thousands of options and limited information about them. It’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack! Then, when they do finally match with someone they are sent the ‘standard one liner’ that they send to every match. Or even worse, they find out they have nothing in common and have to start again? It’s exhausting. As I always say, dating is supposed to be fun. If it’s not, you’re doing it wrong!

But fear no more, my single followers. There is a new app in town- created by the creative minds in East London’s Tech City. It’s called Clikd and it combines all the best pieces of social networking, dating and creative photo sharing to offer an alternative and more personalised platform for meeting new people.  It’s suitable for finding both dates or mates, so whatever you’re looking for, you can find it in Clikd.

They have swapped the world of ‘Instant Swiping’ and replaced it with cleverly thought out and imaginative photo-based personality questions instead. These ensure you work with your potential match and ‘clik’ on all levels.

The app is super simple to use. When you sign up, you create your own test, which is just 3 short photo-based questions.  Then, if someone likes the look of you they take your test.  And if you like the look of them, you take theirs. If you both pass that means you have clikd and you can start chatting. The best thing about this is that you get to decide what’s right for you. When you clik with someone you already know a little bit about them.  So no more standard, basic one-liners – Clikd has broken the ice for you already.

 

Clikd Dating App Review

Clikd Dating App Review

As a relationship expert,  love how versatile the app is. You can completely personalise it to really show people who you are. If someone’s values, creativity, or taste in music is super important to you, then you can create your test to reflect this. No-more time wasted on awkward, boring chats, poor matches and bad dates. Clikd was designed with one main purpose in mind, to put us in control of who and how we meet people.  From what I can tell so far, it does exactly that.  It’s definitely worth a try if you are tired of the usual dating apps like Tinder. 

Now the question is: ‘Are you an early bird or a night owl?’ because I want to know if we would clik?! Why not try the app yourself and see!

 

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