How to Message on Tinder

If you want to learn how to message on Tinder then your goal is to get a date (or at least ‘netflix and chill’). In order to increase
your chances of success you need to be able to initiate an original
conversation that will have him/her interested from the get go. Most people
play it safe with generic “hey, how are you?” type messages. You do not want
to fall into that category.

Check out these fail-safe tips on how to get the most out of Tinder or any of the best online dating sites :


1. Check out their profile first

Have a quick look at your matches profile pics and bio to get an idea of who
they are. You want to find a subject or reference for your opening line which
is tailored to them; like a unique hobby or something funny about their

2. Evoke emotion

You want him/her to take notice of you immediately. The easiest way to do
this is by making your match feel excited, surprised or happy. Compliment
their taste in fashion or reveal something strange you have in common.
Flattery which is purely driven to appearance is expected as well as over-used
so steer clear.

3. Use his/her name in your opener

Studies show by using someone’s name, you immediately activate their brain
to pay attention to you. Use this to your advantage. You could write
something like “Laura, I see that you like snakes…”

4. Check your spelling!

There is nothing worse than being messaged by what looks like a 6 year old
who is learning to write. Make sure spellings are correct, use limited to no
slang and keep things friendly and respectful at all times.

5. Keep it short and sweet

You will want to message multiple people in order to increase your chances of
success. For time-efficiency, keep messages short, snappy and original. Long
drawn-out openers rarely are appreciated and waste too much of your time.
First impressions are everything.

By following these steps, you can start conversation in confidence knowing your doing a lot better than most people
on Tinder.

If you’d like to know more about how to message on Tinder or about getting more dates in general, do contact Dating Coach James Preece today.