How to Date on Instagram

Depending who you talk to, Instagram dating is the wave of the future. To many, it provides easy topics of conversation because you can message someone after they’ve made a post. This is less creepy than messaging someone at random without any reason. Instagram also provides you the ability to get to know someone before you even message them. You can see the types of things they are interested in and what kind of person they are. The hashtags they use on their posts can really shed light on their personality. Unlike a dating profile, which is on display solely to attract someone, Instagram is more realistic. You see the different aspects of someone, especially if you’re watching their stories.

However, not everyone is convinced that Instagram dating is a good idea. Several people think it’s creepy. So, before you start sending out messages, make sure you familiarize yourself with these tips for how to get a date on Instagram:

Start Slow

The first thing you want to do is start building familiarity with the person you’re interested in. You can do this by following them, liking their posts, and leaving engaging comments. This way, when you so send them a message, it won’t seem “out of the blue”. This tactic will work the best if the person interacts back with you. Watch and see if they like any of your posts in return. If they aren’t following you and don’t engage with your posts, sending a message is likely a waste of time.

Use The Platform

What is the biggest difference between a dating website and Instagram? Instagram posts aren’t meant to attract a date. People post on Instagram with things they enjoy, quotes that inspire them and pictures of the things they are doing. Of course, there’s a fair amount of selfies too. You can use this platform to your advantage by getting to know the person you’re interested in. Browse their posts, see what they like and what their hobbies are. This is a crucial tool for sending that first message.

Be Natural

No one likes pick-up lines. Seriously. Instead of crafting a smooth pick-up line, choose personal details. Those hobbies you noted are now going to come in handy. You can invite your Instagram crush out to do something you already know they enjoy. This will make them more likely to say yes to a date. Remember: You can always use compliments, but flattery won’t get you everywhere. Especially if you’re only commenting on physical appearance. If you want to learn how to get a date on Instagram then keep things nice and light.

Check Yourself

No matter how awesome your message is, you’re going to be completely overlooked if your profile is lackluster. If you don’t have interesting pictures or your profile picture isn’t of your face, it’s unlikely that someone will respond to you. You have to make sure that you look appealing to the person you’re trying to attract. This isn’t hard, either. You don’t have to be a professional photographer to land amazing photographs of yourself and you don’t want too many selfies on your page, either. A few well-lit pictures scattered around is all you need. Next, be interesting. Take interesting pictures and post in moderation. No one likes an Instagram account that posts 5+ times a day and that includes Instagram stories!

The Green Light

All of the methods above are useful when you’re not sure. But there is also an automatic “green light” on Instagram and it’s called Stories. If someone you’re following posts a proactive picture to their story, it’s a green light. You can send them a message and they are going to be receptive. These photos are called “thirst traps”, which means they are posted with the intention of attracting you. Often times, these photos are only visible to a select list of people.

Hopefully you now know how to date on instagram successfully.  If not, do book a dating coaching session with me!

James Preece
Dating Coach and Dating Expert at The Dating Guru
James Preece is the Dating Guru.

He is the UK's leading Dating Coach and Relationship Expert, helping 1000s find love each year.