Preparing for a first date with somebody new can be a little scary. You don’t know if you’re going to be sitting a few feet away from the love of your life, or whether you’re going to have an awkward conversation, make your excuses, and leave. The least you can do to avoid it being too awkward is prepare for your first date. Read on for some of my dating expert advice that will help you:

 

Know What You Want Before You Date

 

Before you even think about dating, make sure you have an idea of what you want. Don’t limit yourself, though – what if your perfect person actually has brown hair, not blonde? What if they are a teacher, not a doctor? Make sure you only specify the important aspects of their personality and values. Have this in mind whether you’re using a chat line number or a newspaper ad to find your next date. When you know what you want, you’ll be able to gauge whether somebody is right for you pretty early on. 

 

Prepare For Your First Date By Agreeing On The Right Location

 

The location you pick for your date should be neutral and low pressure. Use this time to figure out how well you get along, and just have a regular conversation. Food at a restaurant can come with a lot of pressure, so opt for a simple date at a coffee shop instead. This way, you can both have a quick drink and a chat and arrange something else if you feel it’s a good idea. 

 

Prepare For An Engaging Conversation

 

Preparing to have a conversation can be nerve wracking if you don’t like striking up conversations with people you don’t really know. Rather than asking questions like ‘what do you do?’ try to make your questions more interesting and engaging. Ask them what their perfect day out would be, and who they would have over for dinner if they could choose anybody. Try to make light of it being a bit awkward – just don’t make it more awkward. 

 

Be Interesting 

 

You should only be your authentic self, of course, but don’t play down your accomplishments and things you like to do. Find a way to talk about yourself that is interesting and engaging. Let them know about your passions and hobbies, but don’t do all of the talking. Make sure that you listen as much as you talk

 

Don’t Make Assumptions Early On

 

Many make assumptions based on their date’s profession, for example, but avoid making assumptions early on. Just go with the flow, and if you have a good feeling about a person, give it a few dates before deciding who they are or why they might not be right for you. Don’t be ‘logical’ – if you get along and you think you like them, see how it goes. 

 

Present Yourself In A Way That Feels Good 

 

It’s not all about looks, but making sure you like how you have presented yourself will make a big difference to your date. Wear clothes that you think show off your personality!

 

Remember, the best way to prepare for your first date is simply to relax and let yourself be free to enjoy it.

 

James Preece
Dating Coach and Dating Expert at The Dating Guru
James Preece is the Dating Guru.

He is the UK's leading Dating Coach and Relationship Expert, helping 1000s find love each year.