Can You Be Friends With Your Ex Boyfriend

It’s a tricky subject, can you be friends with your ex boyfriend or ex partner. Many relationship experts say you can, while many others say it’s just not logical. No matter who you ask about it, opinions will always be divided. This is largely because there is no general rule when it comes to keeping a friendship. It is dependent on your, your ex-boyfriend and the type of relationship you had with them.

For most people, a relationship ends and that’s the end of it. You take time to heal, to move on. Eventually, you find yourself with someone new and you practically forget about your ex altogether.

There are some situations that make that impossible. For instance, if you work with an ex or your family is close with their family. In this case, you have to learn to be civil, regardless of how the relationship ended. It won’t be easy at first, but if you can play nice, you can make it work. 

There’s another layer to the situation though. For instance, if you were really close friends, you’re not just losing a partner, but something more valuable. If you were friends first, there’s a good chance you want to salvage that relationship, regardless of the fate of the romantic one.

There’s a big difference between being civil and trying to remain friends. Can you be friends with your ex boyfriend ?  Perhaps…

If you want to be friends with your ex boyfriend, there are a few things you need to ask yourself:

Are there still romantic feelings between the two of you?
Is there any sexual chemistry between the two of you?
Are you bitter about aspects of the relationship?
Are you uncomfortable talking about the issues of your now ex-relationship?
Will you be uncomfortable when he starts dating someone new?
Are you just trying to keep him in your life in some capacity?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions: You can’t be friends with your ex-boyfriend. If you answered “no”, there is hope.

If you genuinely enjoy the companionship of your now ex-boyfriend, it is understandable that you want to remain friends with him. However, the answers above do have to be mutual. You can’t make a friendship work if your ex-boyfriend is still hung up on you. The two of you have to agree that the romantic feelings have passed. Of course you’re still going to care about each other, but it can’t be the way two spouses would care about each other.

If you do agree that the romance is dead, but you want to remain friends, you can probably make it work. That’s not saying it’s going to be easy though. Trying to stay friends with a past lover is a learning experience. There are going to be challenges you haven’t considered. You are going to run into issues, especially at the beginning. There are going to be topics that neither of you want to discuss. There may be awkward moments. Even if you were friends before you ever started dating, you’re basically starting a new friendship. There are new boundaries to be set, especially as you both start seeing other people. 

So can you be friends with your ex boyfriend 

 Yes….but it’s going to require a lot of hard work. As long as you are both willing to put in the work, you can be friends with your ex-boyfriend