Make a Man Miss You the Right Way

After someone breaks things off, it can be tempting to try and win them back. Many of us fall apart after a break-up, which is perfectly normal. You are going to be hurting and feel frustrated for a period of time. Many people fall victim to that desperation. They leave unwanted voicemails and send endless text messages. There are a few people who go a little crazy and do things they’d be embarrassed about in the future. Believe me, I’ve heard some mad stories over the years. This can work against you and make them want to get away from you as quickly as possible!  So that’s really not a great strategy. 

So here’s what you need to do instead in order to make him think about you. If you want to make a man miss you, you have to be absent. They say it makes the heart grow fonder, right? This means you have to keep yourself busy, unavailable. That is easier said than done, but, consider that the heart wants what it can’t have. That doesn’t mean you should rush into a new relationship or completely ignore any attempts they may make to contact you. Instead, you need to be busy focusing on yourself. After all, living well is the best revenge.

What Exactly Does That Mean?

It’s important when you’ve just come out of a relationship to put yourself first. If you don’t have an existing self-care routine, this is a good time to set one up for yourself. You need a period of time after the break-up to clear your mind. One of the best things to do is to keep a journal throughout this period. It doesn’t have to be detailed, but it will help you to organize your thoughts. This is an important step, because it allows you to really evaluate what you’re looking for. Hopefully, both personally and romantically. You may even realize you don’t miss your partner, you miss who you thought they were. It happens to some people after a break-up. Most people are left with the longing and the emptiness. Those emotions are the ones that can benefit from journaling.

Even if you want your ex-partner back, you’re going to want to give him space. After all, you want to make a man miss you now. It also gives him the chance to miss everything you brought to the relationship That doesn’t mean you have to completely drop any contact. If you do, it could send the wrong signal that you’re moving on.

Instead of completely cutting contact, you can limit how often you communicate by keeping yourself busy. Along with giving yourself more attention, it may be a good idea to reconnect with friends and family. It’s always a good time for girls’ night, so treat yourself a bit. Your social circle will be a big help during this time. Friends can help you to stay busy, and even offer advice moving forward. Family is good for emotional support. If your social circle is lacking, you can use this opportunity to meet new people. As an adult, the best way to make new friends is by joining a club or taking a class of some sort. This can also help you to reconnect with any hobbies or interests. You may even pick up a few new hobbies. If there are things you’ve always wanted to do, take some time to do them. Live your life, and have as much fun as you can. This is a chance to completely reinvent yourself. Become the person you’ve always envisioned yourself being. He will respond to the changes if you’re confident about them.

Do you want to make a man miss you even more? Then it’s time to create a “signature” you.

Are you Curious to Know More?

Exactly as it sounds, this is a image that is “so you”. This can include the changes you may have already made or inspire new ones. This will radiate how you want people to see you in their minds. There are many different ways you can create a signature. If you incorporate the five senses, you’re set. For scent, you can choose a perfume or scent that you always wear. A single piece of jewellery, like a ring or bracelet, can be your token sight. Maintaining soft, smooth skin can enhance the sense of touch. You can develop a sultry laugh that echoes through his hearing. Add flavour to your signature by chewing a specific gum or enjoying a specific flavour. When he interacts with any of these signature senses, he’s going to be thinking of you. It’s like the five love languages – different things will trigger him in different way.

If it’s been amicable so far, it may be easier to reach out and get their attention. You could invite them out for coffee, as a friend. From here, you’re going to want to take it slow. Think of it as a completely new relationship. You’re leaving the past behind and moving forward together. The dating phase can be fun the second time around. You already know each others’ quirks, so there aren’t likely to be surprises. Yet, you’re both (hopefully) trying to impress one another. It’s encouraged to be a little silly sometimes, even if you’re playing hard to get. You want to add a little mystery this time around. You’re building anticipation for the unknown future together. It’s a good idea to consider that things are not going to be the same this time around. That is a good thing, for the most part. You have a chance to start again, which means starting without expectations. You are just friends. You are rebuilding your relationship.

Using Jealousy to Make a Man Miss You

There are suggestions online about making him jealous with a new relationship or pretending to be busy whenever he wants to get together. These tactics work on occasion, but they are just mind games. If you have to play mind games, then it’s not a genuine relationship. As long as you’re cool about the break-up, you have a chance to make him miss you. We all need need patience after a break-up to come to terms with how we’re really feeling. Show him you’re supportive, that you understand he needs time. There’s no set amount of time for this process. It’s different for most people. Of course, if you feel like you’re being taken advantage of it may be a good idea to reconsider. Hopefully, you make the effort to be patient with him, he’ll be appreciative of having you as a friend. He’s going to start reconsidering the break-up.

So there you, these are my tips to help make a man miss you. Ultimately, you may decide it’s best to move on. If you’d like some help with that, then please book a dating coach for women session with me now!

James Preece
Dating Coach and Dating Expert at The Dating Guru
James Preece is the Dating Guru.

He is the UK's leading Dating Coach and Relationship Expert, helping 1000s find love each year.