How To Ask A Guy About His Relationship Status

It feels awkward to directly ask someone “are you single?”. It feels too direct, almost inappropriate. Especially if you’re meeting someone face-to-face. At the same time, you don’t want to invest too much time in someone only to find out later they are in a relationship. That would be more awkward.

In person, you have the option of looking for a ring. That only answers whether or not they are married, not if they are in a relationship. If you do see a ring, you can assume that they are involved and you should gracefully back own. When you’re online, you have a different level of confidence and it may be easier to ask someone directly. Of course, that’s not the case for everyone. Some people struggle with being direct, even online. If you’re one of those people, you’ll need some help!

We’ve got you covered with these methods which will help you learn how to ask a guy about his relationship status.

Check Socials

One of the ways to find out if they are single is by checking their social media accounts. Most active users post photos/statuses about their personal lives. You’ll be able to see if there are any pictures with someone else. You can also check comments and see if there are any people who comment on everything. If so, check their profile and see if they are single.

Ask Around

If scoping out social media isn’t your idea of fun, you can try the old-fashioned method of asking around. Unfortunately, this only works if you have people in common. If you do, you can ask if they have ever heard of a significant other. If you don’t have people in common, you could always ask a stranger that knows the person.

Suffering Singles

One of the more subtle methods of asking about a relationship status is by talking about the single life. You can casually comment on how it is being single. You can mention singles events that you’ve heard of. You can mention dating apps or websites that you’ve tried. By doing this, they will likely offer their relationship status. If they aren’t with someone, they may offer their own contributions to how much it sucks to be single.

Baiting

This method is similar to the one outlined above, but it’s a bit more direct. In this case, you assume they are in a happy relationship. You say something like “your girlfriend/boyfriend is very lucky to have you”. You can replace this with almost any comment or compliment. Now one of two things happens: the person will say thank you or they will correct your misinformation and announce they are single.

Look For Cues

No, that’s not supposed to say “clues”. You want to look for cues in the conversation. If he/she uses “us” and “we” a lot, there is a good chance they are in a relationship. A single person will often use “I” and “me” in stories unless they mention a friend or co-worker in the story. If they mention many solo activities, they are likely looking for a partner in crime.

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James Preece
Dating Coach and Dating Expert at The Dating Guru
James Preece is the Dating Guru.

He is the UK's leading Dating Coach and Relationship Expert, helping 1000s find love each year.