How To Be A Gentleman on a Date

You’ve heard that being a gentleman is a great way to succeed in the dating world. It means that you will be more likely to make a great first impression and catch the attention of the woman you are with. For many, this comes naturally but for others it needs a bit of work. Perhaps you are out of practice or aren’t sure of the rules of the game anymore. Don’t worry, this article will help you know what to do. 

 Of course, different people have a different ideas of what it means to be a gentleman. The standard vision is a tuxedo and a glass of Scotch on the rocks or a cigar. This is just a Hollywood character. A real gentleman is sincere and authentic to themselves, above all else. Of course, there are other ways to show you’re a gentleman on a date.


Many people get nervous on a date, so that’s normal. It’s also common to talk excessively when you’re feeling nervous. If you start rambling, just notice that you’re doing it. You can make a joke about it to ease the nerves. Your date may also start to ramble. While it’s impossible to listen to everything, you want to make sure you’re paying attention. One way to prove you’re listening to your date is by repeating things they’ve said. Asking questions about things that have been mentioned is a good way to show you’re paying attention.

Mind Your Manners

Manners are an important tool for being a gentleman on a date.This includes things like, waiting to eat until the table has been served or holding the door open for her. Even if you think it’s out-dated, women still appreciate the sentiment. When it comes to your manners, you may want to watch how much you drink. It’s easy to lose track, especially if you’re having a good time. It just reflects poorly on you in the long run. There are a few other things you can do to impress your date, such as paying for their cab/ride to meet you or paying for the date. It isn’t required, but it doesn’t hurt to offer either. You may also want to turn your phone off, or keep it out of sight. In the modern age, it’s considered rude to be looking at your phone consistently. Of course, you can occasionally check your phone, especially if you need to.

Watch Your Language

If first impressions matter, you may want to avoid using cuss words. You may also want to steer clear of other foul language. This includes what you say and how you say it. For instance, talking bad about an ex might be considered rude and inappropriate. Be polite when you’re speaking to others, like servers. You are likely to be judged by how you interact with people in the service industry as many people seem to have no social skills. Basically, you want to follow the “treat others how you want to be treated” rule. 

Be a Gentleman by Following Up Afterwards

This is something very important that you need to remember at all times. If you forget it then you may come across as rude and disinterested. This is obviously not the look you are hoping for a on a date!

Manners are essential and it’s important that you treat people in the same way you’d like to be treated by them. That way they will have a great experience. One of the best ways to be a gentleman on a date is by following up afterwards. You can send a text once you’ve arrived home, and check that your date arrived home safely. You can let them know you enjoyed yourself. There are debates about how long to wait before texting after a date, but ignore those. The fact is, you can text or call whenever you want. It may seem overambitious, but it shows that you’re not into games.


The most important thing about any date is that you’re genuine. A gentleman is someone who is true to themselves. Authenticity goes a long way in a world that hides behind social media. One way you can stay comfortable and natural during your date is by dressing comfortably. Although you may want to dress up to impress your date, dressing comfortably helps to create that comfortable environment. It becomes easier to interact and puts the emphasis on your personality.

James Preece
Dating Coach and Dating Expert at The Dating Guru
James Preece is the Dating Guru.

He is the UK's leading Dating Coach and Relationship Expert, helping 1000s find love each year.