How to Stop Procrastinating
There are many different reasons that could be keeping you from finding love. One of those reasons is that you’re allowing yourself to make excuses to keep yourself isolated. These excuses range from “I’m not ready” to “no one will love me”. These aren’t always negative feelings about yourself. Although many psychologists might want you to believe they are so that you seek out the help and counseling to get better at dating. These thoughts are actually born from the fear of rejection, which leads you to second-guessing what you have to offer others. It’s a mind-loop that so many of us end up stuck inside. The good news is, there is an escape!
Stop Procrastinating By Getting Out There!
That may sound easier than done, right? Or is it actually easy and you’ve just convinced yourself it’s much harder? All you have to do is put yourself out there. The rest will fall into place. Now depending on your taste, there are different ways to get into the game. You can try online dating. You can go to local community events. Or you can hook up with a matchmaker service that promises to find you a partner. It’s all a matter of what you’re the most comfortable doing. No one else can tell you how to find love. However, anyone can tell you that love won’t find you if you’re sitting at home, worrying about when you’re going to be ready.
In reality, most of us are never ready. It’s always hard to try to stop procrastinating . We put one foot in front of the other and metaphorically stumble through the beginning of our dating experiences. It’s sloppy. It’s awkward. Yet, we try. We take the steps we need to take, regardless of how awful they may turn out. You may get a few awful dates right off the top. It happens. You move on. Take a learning experience from every date-gone-wrong and you’ll see there’s actually a charm to the imperfections of romance.
There are ways to start small when it comes to pulling yourself from the procrastinator’s mindset. You can start by jotting down your goals, both long-term and short-term, as they pertain to your dating experience. Doing this will give you a clear idea of what you’re looking for, which will help you find a starting point. Once you have a starting point and a goal, it’s so much easier to take that first step. Just repeat to yourself: “Eye on the prize.” Which sounds cliche, but for a reason. By focusing on what you want to achieve, you’re more likely to go for it and stop procrastinating. You’ll find you don’t second guess yourself as much. You won’t be as nervous meeting new people. Having a goal and staying focused takes your mind away from potential worry.
Steer away from getting too focused though. If you’re too hung up on a specific type of person, you’re likely to look right over some really good candidates. Keep your goals in mind, yes. But never let them be the only thought. Goals are like the rough draft of a book: They are meant to revised and updated as new ideas come to mind.