Win Back Your Ex: an Easy Guide 

Your relationship has ended, and only now do you realise just how much you loved her.  I get it, your heart is broke and you need to get her back.  Unfortunately, there are no easy answers for this, but I can tell you what NOT to do to win back your ex.  One of my clients broke up with her fiancé because of various reasons, and he won her back, but he made some mistakes along the way.  Now, I am going to let you in on the pitfalls to avoid while trying to reunite with your love. 

Do not ask her to marry you 

If a woman has recently dumped you, asking her to marry you will certainly push her further away.  Unless a woman is desperate and has no self respect, she will not come back to you simply because you flash a shiny diamond.  And if she does, you have bigger problems.  Marriage is a big step, and asking her out of desperation could be the biggest mistake of your life.  

Do not call her or drop by her house 

Stalking your Ex is not an option unless you are looking forward to being slapped with a restraining order.  Keep a respectable distance.  If you cannot go without communicating with her, wait a month and send her a short message on Facebook or the like.  Only ask how she is, and no matter how you really feel, say you are feeling good.  Avoid driving by her house, or if that is not possible, do not ask about vehicles at her house that are not familiar to you.  The last thing you want is to make her feel like you think she is a possession. 

Do not become a hermit, shut-in, or depressed shell of a man 

Nothing is less sexy than a man who cannot pull himself up by the boot straps and move on, despite the pain.  Show her that you are capable of living without her.  If you throw yourself into depressed heap, it will only show her that you are emotionally unstable and unable to handle stress.  She needs to see that you can handle whatever life throws at you with grace and humility.  If necessary, seek counselling. 

Do not stay single to try to win back your ex 

Anything that seems like desperation is a turn off.  Do not let Hollywood’s lies lull you into believing in a fairy tale ending.  You need to move on with your life just as you would if you had no desire to get her back.  You never know, you might meet the perfect girl in the meantime. 

Sometimes relationships end so that space can be made for the right person.  You have to keep this in mind if you are suffering over a breakup.  If you don’t win her back, you may always feel that she was the one who got away.  However, if you follow these suggestions, maybe you will win her back, but at least you will walk away from the relationship looking like a winner.   

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James Preece
Dating Coach and Dating Expert at The Dating Guru
James Preece is the Dating Guru.

He is the UK's leading Dating Coach and Relationship Expert, helping 1000s find love each year.